While our blog spends a lot of time talking about divorce issues and what people should consider doing when they decide to file for divorce, it may be important for you to realize what a divorce can and can't do for you.
A divorce can help you deal with several issues. Property division delineates who gets what once the divorce is finalized and may allow you to keep the property you want. Child support and alimony obligations may be established in a divorce, giving you and your child the financial resources you need. A divorce might also settle child custody matters, establishing sole or joint-custody and visitation rights. This issue is always determined based on the best interests of the child.
On the other hand, a divorce cannot guarantee that you will get an equal share of property. Nor can it guarantee you equal time with your children. Every case is different, and so too are the resolutions. A divorce also cannot ensure that you and your ex-spouse will act decently with one another. Though a court may order a particular child custody arrangement, it cannot be there to police it. That falls on you and your ex-spouse.
You also should not expect a divorce to allow you to maintain your standard of living. A court cannot increase your pay to accommodate for the loss of your spouse's. Therefore, you should consider what you can do to eliminate costs to live within your means. Lastly, a divorce cannot resolve your emotional issues. The legal process, though extremely beneficial, cannot help you heal emotionally.
The decision to get divorced is not one to be taken lightly. Therefore, you should consider every aspect of your life now and what it will be if you decide to get divorced. Perhaps then you will be able to reach the answer that is right for you.
Source: FindLaw, "What Is Divorce Good For?" accessed on Jan. 23, 2015